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How to Keep Your Husband From Cheating
Posted: 2007-08-28 10:06:38

Do you know where your husband is? Beware! Summer is the peak time for husbands to cheat.Why? We're all on the move -- even into the warm weekends of September. It's easy to pack the wife and kids off on a fun vacation or getaway weekend while he stays at home, working in the office and dallying with a lover in the evenings.

That's the word from infidelity expert Ruth Houston, author of "Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs." Some men cheat all year long, while others never break their marriage vows. But many men look at summer as an ideal time to hook-up, something Houston calls "seasonal cheating."Houston told Newsday, "These aren't men who are habitual cheaters. They're just looking for a summer fling. It's fun to them. It's a sport, something they can do to break up the routine. If in any way it looks like they're going to get caught, they won't take the chance."

It's hard to know exactly how many men cheat. The National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago reports that twice as many husbands as wives have affairs. Specifically, the 2006 General Social Survey found that 21.3 percent of men admitted having sexual relations while they were married, compared with 12.5 percent of women.Even if your marriage is strong -- that is, you value trust, communicate well and enjoy a sizzling sex life -- Houston insists the temptation to have an affair may be too strong for some men.

Her advice? Wives, you can't be too vigilant. "Women should be proactive rather than reactive," she told Newsday. "Put the odds in your favor."To prevent your husband from cheating on you, do this:-- Attend company events, such as the picnic, even if you don't really want to go. Your presence may be enough to keep him from flirting with other women and for other women to not get ideas that he is available.-- If you're away on vacation while he stays home, check in on him by phone and even in person, if possible, by coming home unexpectedly.-- If he is away, find out where he is staying and get the land line telephone number. "Cell phones are the greatest aid to infidelity ever invented other than the Internet.

You want a land line. With a cell phone, he can be anywhere," Houston advises.-- Be alert. Remember, the wife is often the last to know. If she is paying attention, she will be the first.